Healthy Times September 2010
Mind Your Language
What if you could turn your life around just by changing how you speak? Would you be interested? It is, in fact, much easier than you may think.
The first principle you have to accept is that words carry energy. The language we use, whether in our own internal dialogue or in our conversation with others, has a direct and immediate impact on our base energy as well as the results we get as we go through our day. The intrinsic energy that words carry can work for us or against us. Most of us have no idea whether our thoughts and spoken words are negative or positive, but when we stop to listen to ourselves we have to admit that negative easily outdoes positive.
Have you ever found yourself feeling drained after just 20 minutes with someone who spends the whole time complaining or being negative? Whatever positive energy you had coming into the conversation has been literally stripped from you. Well, we also do this to ourselves whenever we start criticising ourselves or anyone else.
Professor Emoto has been recognized around the world for his research into the energy in written or spoken words. He filled glass vials with distilled water from the same bottle, fixed labels with specific typed or hand-written words onto the vials and placed them in a freezer at minus 25 degrees centigrade. When the water had frozen, he moved the vials to a refrigerator where high-resolution cameras took a series of photographs as the frozen water slowly thawed and formed into various crystalline shapes. The vials with negative words such as hatred or anger on the labels produced shapes that were confused or discoloured, while those with positive words like love or peace or even Mother Theresa showed the most intricate, lace-like forms rather like snow flakes. When you consider that you are composed of at least 70 percent water, you will see the significance of minding the language you use.
Bear in mind also that the only thing you have absolute control over is your thinking and the words you select. First, you need to become aware just how negative your thinking and your language tend to be. Awareness will make the next step much easier: reminding yourself to deliberately choose a positive word every time you think or speak. Even if a negative word has already slipped out, relax and immediately replace it with an alternative, positive word.
This may take some practice but it really is easier than it sounds. Another way is to find a ‘word partner’ so that you can remind one another to switch words when a negative word slips out. Spend some time drawing up a list of words you use often and for every negative word write down an equivalent, positive word so that you have one ready when you need it.
Apart from the individual negative words we use, we also fall into various other traps that limit us. For example, we sabotage our thoughts by catastrophising (“I’ll probably be fired”) or by generalising (“He never listens”). A quick reality check will help. Just how likely is it that you will be fired for what you’ve done? And is it really true that he never listens?
The other trap we set for ourselves that also leads us into negative territory is to apply a range of labels to ourselves: “I’m so lazy” could more accurately be expressed as sensibly taking time to rest and recover. Whenever you’re tempted to use such a label, stop and ask yourself what positive purpose may be served by what you’re doing that you want to label. The label traps us in a negative frame of mind, yet serves no positive purpose.
To further restrict our energy, we then torture ourselves by mind reading. How can we ever know exactly what someone else really thinks or why they think it? If we could only step back and accept that everyone has their own unique reason for what they do or say that serves some important purpose for them, we would be much more relaxed and stay in positive territory most of the time.
The ‘shoulds’ and ‘oughts’ that lace our conversation imply potential frustration or possibility of failure that set us up for feelings of guilt or anxiety later. Get in the right mind-set so that you are positive about wanting to do the task in hand.
All of this takes time and lots of practice but the result is worth it. As you begin to experience this new energy most of the time, you will be amazed at the good energy that comes back to you. Things will then fall into place so easily for you.
Stephen Clasper is a Coach and Energy Healer as well as Co-Founder of Shakti Healing Circle in Central.